Inner Child Healing involves acknowledging and nurturing the inner child, addressing unmet needs, and healing past wounds to break free from old patterns and unresolved childhood experiences that impact present-day lives.

  • Inner Child Healing: Understanding and addressing childhood experiences and emotions that influence present behaviours and emotions.
  • Nurturing Process: Acknowledging the significance of the inner child, providing self-compassion, and fulfilling unmet emotional needs.
  • Therapeutic Methods: Utilizing meditation, therapy, creative expression, and guided visualization to aid in the healing journey.
  • Emotional Needs: Recognition, comfort, playfulness, freedom, unconditional love, validation, healing, joy, curiosity, and connection—key aspects an inner child might seek for healing and growth.

Our inner child is the part of us that represents our early life experiences, emotions, beliefs, and vulnerabilities from childhood. Inner child healing is a profound journey where you dive deep into the past, into the moments that shaped who you are today. This process involves connecting with your inner child, offering them the love, care, and understanding that they may not have received back then. This process is all about embracing and nurturing the wounded, neglected, or unmet emotional needs of Little You (ie. Little Lauren)

I have found that the key to healing lies in viewing everything from the perspective of Little You. As an adult, you may be able to comprehend why things happened the way they did or why people did what they did. For example, why parents pushed you hard, or you were rejected from school teams or clubs. And there will be some things you have never understood but you’ve learned to live with it. For example divorce, death, growing up without an adult figure to help you. Either way, your inner child, the five-year-old Little You, cannot grasp the complexities of the world. Viewing things from this innocent perspective helps connect the dots between past hurts and present trauma. Carrying these unresolved wounds throughout life explains why seemingly insignificant events trigger unexpected reactions – a sudden urge to cry or an outburst of anger. Your inner child strives to shield you, warning of potential hurt, reinforcing walls you've built to prevent vulnerability or pain.

Maintaining these defensive walls demands immense effort. You have to navigate cautiously, avoiding triggers that evoke pain, striving to forget those distressing memories. You've become adept at burying the past, you don’t want to feel the pain, you want to forget it ever happened. So you keep pushing it down, perhaps even forgetting the actual events. Yet, the triggers persist. It's draining, bewildering, and distressing to constantly hide behind these walls, grappling with intense, untraceable emotions. 

Living in constant fear means that unacknowledged and unfelt pain dictates your life. Each new painful event constructs more walls, until life revolves solely around safeguarding these inner walls, suppressing the pain within. And you know what makes it all so much worse, all this work to keep the walls intact and your inner child feeling ‘secure’, keep you in a state of misery. You’re losing out on the joys of life - love, friendship, exploration, adventure, and peace. In solitude, the pain surfaces, inhibiting your ability to sit happily with yourself. In relationships the fear keeps others at arm's length. 

In essence, inner child healing means that you are reparenting Little You. You’re giving Little You all of the love, safety, and acceptance that you craved as a child and are still asking for now. Unresolved childhood experiences and emotions persistently affect our present lives, influencing behaviour, relationships, self-esteem, and emotional well-being. This deep emotional work allows you to break free from old patterns, give yourself love and safety instead of looking for it externally,, and find a sense of emotional freedom and growth. As you begin to listen to your inner child and fulfill their emotional desires, you’ll be able to slowly integrate these now acknowledged and healed desires into your present self. 

Life on the other side of becoming a safe and loving space for your inner child is a beautiful freedom. Your inner child doesn't have to be scared any more. Your inner child needn't fear anymore; you're now here to see the world clearly for them, not through their lenses of fear and pain. Once you have acknowledged and felt the pain that you’ve held onto, the walls are released, allowing you to live in peace, unencumbered by tiptoeing around triggers. Finally, you can let go.

Unresolved childhood experiences and emotions continue to impact our present lives, manifesting within our behaviour, relationships, self-esteem, and emotional well-being.

Here are key aspects of inner child healing:

  • Acknowledgment: Recognizing your inner child's significance, understanding their needs and wounds, and accepting their presence.
  • Connecting with the Inner Child: Establishing a safe space for expression through meditation, visualization, or therapy.
  • Healing Past Wounds: Revisiting traumas with compassion, allowing suppressed emotions to surface and heal.
  • Reparenting and Nurturing: Providing self-compassion, addressing unmet needs, and offering comfort and validation.
  • Integration and Transformation: Fusing healed aspects into your present self, fostering self-acceptance and balanced emotions.

Inner child healing can be pursued through various therapeutic modalities such as inner child meditations, guided visualization, talk therapy, journaling, and creative expression (art, writing, etc.), and somatic techniques.

Personally, I find that guided inner child meditations help me the most. There are so many available on Spotify and Youtube, but my favourite meditations are on the free app Insight Timer.

I’ve listed below some of the things that your inner child might be asking you for. This is not an exhaustive list, there could be many nuanced things your Little You needs. But I urge you to see what comes through to you in guided inner child meditations. You might be surprised! 

  • Attention and Recognition: Your inner child might seek acknowledgment, attention, and recognition of their feelings, needs, and presence.
  • Comfort and Reassurance: They may ask for comfort, reassurance, and a sense of safety, seeking emotional support and nurturing.
  • Playfulness and Creativity: Your inner child might desire moments of playfulness, exploration, and creative expression without judgment or restrictions.
  • Freedom and Independence: They might seek freedom and independence, wanting to make their own choices and decisions.
  • Unconditional Love: Your inner child may yearn for unconditional love, acceptance, and affection, free from any conditions or expectations.
  • Validation and Approval: They might seek validation, approval, and encouragement for their feelings, thoughts, and actions.
  • Healing and Understanding: Your inner child might request healing, understanding, and resolution of past hurts or unresolved emotions.
  • Joy and Happiness: They may ask for moments of joy, happiness, and excitement, wanting to experience the lighter aspects of life.
  • Curiosity and Wonder: They might seek opportunities for curiosity, learning, and experiencing the world with wonder and awe.
  • Connection and Companionship: Your inner child may desire connection and companionship, seeking loving connections with others or with your present self.
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