My Journey

Jan 2, 2025
My Journey

Hi, I’m Lauren, friends call me Lo, happy to be called either. 

My own journey of navigating my inner world and finding clarity in my relationship with self and with others taught me how powerful it is to embrace self-love and live authentically. That’s what inspired me to create Unstuckself. A space where I can share the tools and insights that helped me become self-aware, heal, and transform my life. And what has guided me to my purpose of helping you awaken to your true self buried beneath conditioning, and magnetize the love and life you desire. This is my purpose. 

Looking back now, so many of the patterns I was stuck in revolved around love. I clung to people who couldn’t meet me emotionally (nor I for them). I abandoned myself to be chosen. I mistook anxiety for chemistry, and fear for love. The more I reached outside myself for worth, the more disconnected I became. I didn’t realize the relationship I needed to heal first… was the one with myself.

This quest for an answer started in 2022 after meeting the love of my life, and the catalyst for my healing journey. At first, I didn’t believe I needed healing; I thought I was fine. I didn’t think I had any trauma because nothing "exceptionally bad" had happened to me. But reflecting on my past now, I see the signs my body and mind were giving me. Abandonment wounds, fear of rejection, low self-worth, and lack of self-respect. I projected confidence on the outside but battled insecurity and jealousy within. I stayed in bad relationships because I was grasping for love outside of me. I stayed stuck in phases of my life for years because I was afraid – afraid of never finding love again, afraid I didn’t deserve better. I consistently disrespected and dishonoured myself by doing things I didn’t want to do for the happiness of others. I put myself through misery in jobs that drained me. I stayed stuck in friendships because I needed people to go out with (and if I didn’t have any one, even surface-level, that was scary). I stayed stuck in unhappiness because I thought I wasn’t good enough for more.

I suppressed emotions, I spoke to myself with cruelty, and I had no boundaries – each of these behaviors were echoes of unhealed pain. I just didn’t know how to read the signs or understand what to do with them. I didn’t know that holding back tears, my body tensing up, my throat closing, lashing out, hating myself, and shutting down in conversations were all indicators of pain stuck inside me.

In the fall of 2021, unaware of what healing or spirituality really was, I met my Twin Flame. That meeting catapulted me into an intense awakening. It’s a beautiful connection but also a crash course in self-awareness and healing. And while it sounds golden in theory, it wasn’t. Healing is not glamorous. It’s not spa days and lattes with journals. It’s raw. It’s vulnerable. It’s terrifying.

The twin flame mirror effect brought every buried wound to the surface. There was no escaping it. All the pain I had pushed down was now impossible to ignore. My twin flame, the mirror of my own soul, ran from me, triggering deep abandonment wounds and pushing me into darkness. I spiraled. I didn’t want to survive the pain. I just wanted it to stop.

So, what is healing? What is shadow work? What is trauma? What is nervous system regulation? What is presence? What is the soul? What are attachment styles? What is real self-love?

It was overwhelming. But everything I’ve been through has brought me here.

That journey led to Unstuckself. I created the space I needed. One that doesn’t confuse or overwhelm with vague advice, but offers grounded tools, real emotional guidance, and the kind of clarity I never had. A space that speaks to the parts of you that feel too much, too sensitive, or too broken, and gently shows you that you're not.

Fast forward to now, after countless tears, deep introspection, inner child work, and reconnecting with myself... the changes I’ve experienced are real.

I no longer run from discomfort or abandon myself for love. I speak my truth. I set boundaries. I understand my triggers. I no longer force relationships that don’t feel right. I don’t need chaos to feel connection. I’ve found peace in solitude. I’ve found presence. I’ve found me.

This part of the healing journey is beautiful. It’s a refresh on life, love, peace, and truth.

So, who am I?

I am a resilient, compassionate, and deeply self-aware soul who has faced her shadows with courage and emerged with clarity and purpose. I’ve turned pain into wisdom, found strength in vulnerability, and reclaimed the voice I used to silence.

I am a guide. A mirror. A space holder. A woman who has walked through the fire and now offers her hand to others.

I am here to help you come home to yourself so you can finally receive the love you’ve always deserved.

Because the most important relationship you will ever have… is the one within.

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